Chapter 8 : Find out what makes you happy

~make a list of your favourite things, and enjoy it.

Everyone of us has our own very preference. Some people love green. Some people love blue. Mr A likes Sunday. Mr B likes Tuesday. Little G likes his favourite friend Little J. Miss T like to spend time with her favourite party. Mr W likes to start his morning with a cup of coffee with 2 spoons of sugar and 1 sachet of creamer. Well, everyone of us has our very personal own preference. But how many of us keep a list? Why is it necessary to keep a list.

It is simple, because we want to be happy everyday. When we are upset or feeling down, we like to be surrounded by our very good friend, listening to our favourite song that cheers us. We like to share our little secret with our love one. We like to spend our times with our pretty little thing when we are upset of feeling down. It actually helps to reduce your pain and your sadness. It helps you to overcome whatever obstacles that you face. And it helps you to continue to face the challenge in the future and continue to find the thing you want and you like.

So let's grab a small note book, of course with your very personal favourite colour. Make it a little bit small in size and handy so you can bring all around. And list down your very personal preference things. Your favourite colours, your favourite clothes, your favourite song, your favourite people, your favourtie things and etcs. And of course, you can put pictures of your favourite things inside also. Whenever you feel upset or down, let's open this little book of favourite. And close your eyes, start to imagine that you are being surrounded by your favourite things. Imagination is very powerful, and it helps you to forget what is the thing that upset you. So the end of the day, you feel HAPPY.

Key message : Keep a little favourite book that cheers your day!

Chapter 2 : Rule to be happy

~If you set yourself to be not happy, why don't you set yourself to be happy instead.

We make so many choices in our life everyday. We choose which movie to watch. We choose which clothes to wear. We choose where to eat for lunch. But do you realize YOU are choosing to be happy or not to be happy?

Yes, it is your choice! Whether you want to be happy or not. It is up to you.

It is not something new, it is the rule that everyone know. But how many of us really realize and practice it?

Let see what happen in a day of Mr Z.

Mr Z wakes up and sigh, "It is going to be a tough day again." His wife nags at him and says that the bills are piling up. After that Mr Z drives and stuck in the traffic for 2 hours before reaches his office. He gets scolding by his boss because he comes late and he forgets to pass up meeting report yesterday. He dozes off during meeting and spilled his coffee on the important document. After extra 2 hours of overtime without getting any extra paid, Mr Z stuck in the traffic for another 2 hours. He comes back home and scolds his son for the bad score he got in mathematics exam. Then his wife nags at him again for the family next door went vacation in Hawaii again. Then he goes into sleep at 4 am with tiredness and all the stress.

So what do you think about Mr Z's day. Sounds depressing? But million of us living in this way without even realizing it. And we just go through our bad daily routine again and again. So the end of the day Mr Z filing a divorce with his wife as he finds out his wife cheating on him. And his son ends up in jail due to selling drug. Oh no, definitely not a good ending in the bibliography of life to write isn't it?

How about look at another version of story -

Mr Z wakes up and says to himself - it is going be wonderful day for me. He kisses his wife for the best omelet in the world in which he got for breakfast the day. He goes to work and enjoys of listening to his favorite songs. His boss just calls him in and tells him how good his performance yesterday during the meeting and very high chance he will get his promotion next month. He finishes his work on time and leaves the office  to avoid the traffic jam during 7 pm. He reaches home and play football with his cute son. After dinner Mr Z and his family go to watch a movie. And Mr Z sleeps with a smile in his face and hugs his wife.

So how is the ending for Mr Z now. He is retired at age of 45 year old and enjoys of vacation with his family at Hawaii. Totally different!

What is the moral of the story then. It is simple - If you want to start your day, start to be HAPPY! And happiness leads to happiness, tragedy leads to tragedy. It is a law and often unavoidable.

So if you got the right to choose, why don't you choose to be happy? It is your day, nobody can decide for you, only you can decide your day. And you deserve to be HAPPY!

Key message : If you want to start your day, start to be HAPPY!