Sunday, August 11, 2013

Chapter 11 : How to deal with losses?

~Let's minimize your loss.


A man who loves his wife so much. Unfortunately his wife died of motor vehicle accident. He lived in a miserable everyday. His friend wanted to cheer him out so he brought him for a tour.

When he reached a place. His friend bought him to a graveyard. Those graves were filled with all the smile and laughter. Then that widower was wondering, why those people were laughing? He looked at the graveyard. All the headstones were in funny shapes like bottles, animals, guitars and etc. He looked at the headstone, then he found some words written like 'I finally can rest, don't disturb me', 'I am sleeping next to my wife, only separated by a wall', and 'Cheers for long life but not for me' and even a baby's grave liked 'he had a look at the world, and decided not what he wanted, so he went back to the heaven.'

Then he realized how amazing people could deal with loss with humor. Finally he decided to live happily in the future and he did.

How many of us deal with losses? Almost everyone of us. We can't expect everything we want in our life to be what we expected. And often things turn out not the one we want. So how do we deal with it? We can't change the fact of the ending. We can't change the fact that our loved one leaving us. We can't change the fact that some of us living in poverty and disable.

But what we could change is the way of how we feel. We could accept of what we are. We could move on further and farther. We could be happy even when we are in poverty and disable. Because only if we are feeling better, then we are motivated. Only when we are motivated, then we could make a change. To a better life, to a better future.

I do know someone, who is borne with no hands and feet. But I think he could swim better than me, or maybe some of us. He could go bungee jump, parachuting. Or even marry to a lovely wife. Because he sets no limit. And because he feels happy.

Only when we feel better, then we can deal with our losses. Minimize it, digest it, and solve it perhaps. If we always don't change our feeling, always feels like why we are so unfortunate, why we always losing, why our love one leaving us. Then nothing could be done or changed.

Let's your doctor deal with your illness, the only thing you can do is be happy, takes medicine and have a good rest. Let's your accountant to deal with your financial constraint, if you have one, because you need to be happy and motivated to work. Your parents are aging and dying, but both of you share all those good memories and those happy memories are be with you forever and ever.

Do something that change your feeling, be motivated! Being a loser or in poverty doesn't stop you to be happy. Talk to someone that cheers you up, listen to some songs that make you happy, or reading some motivation book. Enjoy every moment of happy, because you deserve it!

Key message : Only when we feel better, then we could solve the difficult situation and to live in a better future.

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